tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1502130236135620058.post4949361228955617922..comments2024-03-18T14:56:01.914-07:00Comments on Testing The Waters: Learning Not To CryKerryhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04953247230838198626noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1502130236135620058.post-10590419123954669472023-01-02T19:19:52.312-08:002023-01-02T19:19:52.312-08:00You ought to be a writer, you have a gift for it. ...You ought to be a writer, you have a gift for it. Do not give up writing. I only wish I had your skill. I am sorry for your loss of your mother at such a young age and the hurt you experienced from your father. My father was an alcoholic and abusive, which left it’s mark on myself and my siblings. It’s so unfair for children to go through such things. I wish you were still writing your blog, you won’t read this of course but after being so pulled in by what you wrote, I had to leave a comment. Maryhttps://anewrehoboth.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1502130236135620058.post-52209589999571593842021-09-26T15:09:40.652-07:002021-09-26T15:09:40.652-07:00Only a few months ago I followed suggested videos ...Only a few months ago I followed suggested videos on youtube - I may have previously watched a video of someone famous and then 'What's My Line' popped up. The black and white thumbnail and someone of interest, presented your fabulous and clever mother to me. I know that I had watched several clips and enjoyed the respect between the panelists and host - I later saw that they were great friends. Then, of course, because the 'internet' is chasing our data, I saw a video suggestion about your wonderful mother's passing. As one who deals with criminal law enforcement, judiciary & Gov support staff, I was infuriated and disgusted that your mother was victim to the gutless abuse by those enabled by the Gov's most authoritative. In the early hours of this morning, and many months after I learned of the loss of your mother, another thumbnail appeared which reassured me that I was going to learn more about those fighting for justice on your mother's behalf. I assure you that I know the feeling of great loss and your most beloved being taken from you, and also of the drive that can be a burden, as one stays on task to address and rectify the ability of the influential and authoritative, to seemingly abuse as they please - including abuse of the young and vulnerable directly, or the harm caused through abuse of those they love.<br />I am always concerned for the safety of those who speak up against the reliably weak who abuse to elevate and retain their position, because such gutless mutts do not proceed without the wrongdoing of the most authoritative.<br />I will assume that you know of Mark Shaw, but please also know that your pain since the morning you lost your dear mother, was shared by all who loved and respected her. My heart aches for you as such a young boy, because your pain and broken heart could not be eased by the immense support and floods of tears from strangers who were deeply saddened by the loss of your mother - while angered by her obvious murder, actioned by the weakest of human beings who do continue to have the most authority/influence. While you had the quality of mother that good and decent people aspire to know and be, those who took her from you will surely pay a hefty price. I guess it's unfortunate that I don't waste forgiveness on the weak who are sinister and abusive of the vulnerable - look at the gutless way they took her from you all.<br />Best wishes.Catherinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14989874854786185909noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1502130236135620058.post-9230386389491678412021-09-26T14:54:18.541-07:002021-09-26T14:54:18.541-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.Catherinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14989874854786185909noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1502130236135620058.post-22563323039689042452021-09-26T14:52:07.458-07:002021-09-26T14:52:07.458-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.Catherinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14989874854786185909noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1502130236135620058.post-83779511591516345982020-11-08T13:21:08.463-08:002020-11-08T13:21:08.463-08:00Today marks 55 years since your mother's passi...Today marks 55 years since your mother's passing and I just wanted to let you know she's not forgotten and continues to inspire people -- especially me. You obviously got a lot of her writing talent -- your post was very moving. I'm sorry to see you stopped writing here but hopefully continued it elsewhere? <br /><br />I have no idea if you'll this comment oh-so-many years after you stopped blogging but if you do, I hope it finds you doing well, having found a kind of peace that you can accept and embrace. <br />Do take care,<br />Diane Dianehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13017616552748113521noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1502130236135620058.post-5169917698685098422019-06-22T16:01:27.330-07:002019-06-22T16:01:27.330-07:00Thank you, Kerry, for sharing your thoughts. Your ...Thank you, Kerry, for sharing your thoughts. Your experience of loss helps to remind me that we are all human and that we can better endure, heal and overcome with the loving support of compassionate souls, whether they be family, friends or simply those who are willing to listen and understand. Life is indeed a riddle wrapped in a mystery inside an enigma. From what I have read and learned about your mother(THE REPORTER WHO KNEW TOO MUCH and DENIAL OF JUSTICE), she was a remarkable human being who gave birth to a strong, wise and courageous son. Sandra Owennoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1502130236135620058.post-80523462258890530322018-11-08T18:58:01.768-08:002018-11-08T18:58:01.768-08:00Kerry
I didn’t know your mom but I know that she ...Kerry<br /><br />I didn’t know your mom but I know that she was an exceptional person. Judging from this blog, she would be very proud of you. FrankThttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15204351733188981631noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1502130236135620058.post-30978613683196768772017-02-04T13:47:59.148-08:002017-02-04T13:47:59.148-08:00Hey Kerry I've always thought about you and ou...Hey Kerry I've always thought about you and our friendship in NYC when we were newly budding teenagers and put together our first RnR band. We had a lot of fun..running all over that City. It's been so long you might not even remember me...but I just read your blog and I send you good thoughts and love from a very long time ago buddy. Cheers, Bryant FraserBryant Fraserhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01144565091834682214noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1502130236135620058.post-8275263254663598182012-09-09T18:45:44.719-07:002012-09-09T18:45:44.719-07:00Kerry,
Did you having any stills of you and Annet...Kerry,<br /><br />Did you having any stills of you and Annette taken from Pajama Party? If so, can you post them?No Namehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15627331051565764453noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1502130236135620058.post-86045248445938927252010-06-18T21:39:39.312-07:002010-06-18T21:39:39.312-07:00Hello, Kerry. I assure you your mother's deat...Hello, Kerry. I assure you your mother's death did little to crush the sense of humor that you inherited from her. It didn't erase the darling Irish quality that is genetic in your family. <br /><br />After reading "Learning not to cry" as well as the heartbreaking tale of Elder, I note yet another quality you have in common with your mother: an approach to new people that combines naivete, curiosity and suspicion. As you explained, you don't have to be suspicious of any animal but the human. An approach to animals is very different from sizing up new people. I don't know if that can be genetic. <br /><br />"Learning not to cry" describes, whether or not you realize it, the strange bureaucracy of an all - boys Catholic school. A system was already in place before that Monday in 1965. It was a system that provided for a particular school official to inform a student of a death in the family. I suspect it also came in handy if an 11-year-old Catholic boy had an older sister who was a novitiate at a convent, she flunked out and St. David's didn't want the boy to know why she flunked out. Someone had to tell the boy to expect her at his next Thanksgiving dinner and to expect a lot of evasions and euphemisms in the dinner conversation. Maybe inviting the priest to Thanksgiving could lighten everyone's mood. Father Fitzgerald knows Thanksgiving didn't originate from the church, but he also knows persecuted Catholics owed a lot to the United States. And the St. David's staff have to account for this.<br /><br />I've noticed the comment from Christine on this page. Noting her reference to "emotional places too dark for mutual benefit," I refuse to believe that you are destined to be a loner, Kerry. There are so many ways you can meet new friends and a potential girlfriend. A mutual love of walking a dog is one way. <br /><br />When you reveal to a new acquaintance that you are divorced, that person won't think any less of you. No, he/she won't. No!<br /><br />Facebook doesn't attract anyone who emulates Charlie Brown. No, it doesn't. No!<br /><br />I refuse to believe that a Frisbee offers a baby boomer a glimpse of too much freedom. Oh, no, it doesn't. No! I refuse to believe that the prosperity of the 1950s, 1960s and 1970s combined with genetics put the whole sky in some baby boom heads. Oh, no, they didn't. No! No, I shall not believe Kerry loses. No! I'm going to have a little talk with the science of genetics. A loud little talk. I'm shouting at the zygotes: "Stop! What do you want? When you gave me laughter, you were not putting on a false front. No, you weren't. No!"<br /><br />William Randolph Hearst Sr. is quoted by Bartlett's Familiar Quotations as saying the following to the photographers he sent to Cuba in 1898: "You furnish the pictures and I'll furnish the war." My version of that is (pretending I'm Hearst and Kerry is the cell phone documentarian): "You furnish the dog and I'll furnish the hot young Asian lady who isn't afraid to act like Barbara Woodhouse."<br /><br />I mean, really. Preventing another dog from ending up like Elder requires TV commercials with Asian ladies saying, "If you love your furniture a lot, then don't get a dog. It's okay to fantasize about getting revenge on your parents, as long as your fantasies have furniture to sit on. Develop a Sony Playstation game in which Gary Coleman fires darts at his parents. Sit in a comfortable chair or on a couch while you develop it. To hell with owning a dog!"<br /><br />A final note for you, Kerry. If ever you hesitate to go along with a hot young Asian lady's bedroom fantasy, please remember a wise old man's proverb: "If the Asian lady says it's okay, then it's okay." It also applies to a guy who hesitates to gamble at a blackjack table where the dealer is a hot young Asian lady.<br /><br />Take care, Kerry, and please laugh.<br /><br />Your friend, CharinaCharina near Venice Beachhttp://www.myspace.com/sugarmaminoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1502130236135620058.post-48612943181954147612010-04-03T14:06:32.906-07:002010-04-03T14:06:32.906-07:00Dearest Kerry,
I don't know how often you rea...Dearest Kerry,<br /><br />I don't know how often you read your comments, and I don't know if you will read this one, but I feel compelled to make the potential contact.<br /><br />I am so sorry to hear that you and Maureen are no longer together. You were such a beautiful couple, as were we once upon a time. Sadly, my marriage to Mike also fell apart a few years ago.<br /><br />I'm somewhat surprised to learn that you are still living in Georgia. I guess I just expected you would move back to New York someday. I have ended up in Phoenix, Arizona.<br /><br />Reading your blog brought back memories and I clearly recall the beauty that was always evident, to me at least, in your heart. I never stopped loving you, but I knew that we were both in emotional places too dark for mutual benefit. I have always hoped that you would be superbly happy in life, and I still wish that for you.<br /><br />It seems odd to me that after so many years I have sort of rediscovered you. If you are so inclined, I would appreciate hearing how you're doing these days.<br /><br />Christine<br /><br />P.S. I've always wanted to know: when did Buddy die?Christinehttp://cashdomains.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1502130236135620058.post-28079830930096848922009-10-11T08:08:52.966-07:002009-10-11T08:08:52.966-07:00Thanks for writing this, and for directing me to i...Thanks for writing this, and for directing me to it, Kerry. Your prose is as beautiful as ever, and you are gifted with the ability to recall and describe details in such a vivid way that reading about your life becomes a genuine shared experience. I have trouble crying at appropriate moments too, and I'm not sure why. I'd keep a stiff upper lip, more out of some sort of delusion than bravery, about most awful things that could happen to me, and it would come pouring out later in some other way, for some other reason. Bravo for another excellent essay, and I hope you continue to write these in between other things.<br /><br />EVSEthan VShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01570625724501770596noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1502130236135620058.post-22468399511153542502009-10-08T05:04:49.235-07:002009-10-08T05:04:49.235-07:00If there are already comments, there will be a &qu...If there are already comments, there will be a "Post a comment" line over an empty box. Fill in the box with your comment. Thanks,<br />KerryKerryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04953247230838198626noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1502130236135620058.post-14931739900964044282009-10-08T05:03:01.142-07:002009-10-08T05:03:01.142-07:00To post a comment, click on the Comments (5) icon ...To post a comment, click on the Comments (5) icon at the bottom of the article. (It may say Comments (0), but you get it, right?)Box comes up, you write something in it. I come a lookin' later and read it. Simple.<br /><br />Thanks for your feedback. It helps me in a significant way.<br /><br />KerryKerryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04953247230838198626noreply@blogger.com